5 Reasons why it’s OK to want more than being a mum
1. It’s largely unfulfilling, boring and monotonous
Let’s be honest, there are few amongst us who get excited about doing (another) load of washing, (another) trip to the supermarket, (another) round of preparing & cooking dinner and endless sweeping, vacuuming and dusting. Sure there might be a sense of satisfaction (it’s done, house is clean and no one is dying of hunger) but it’s hardly fulfilling.
Why shouldn’t you find something (paid or unpaid, casual, part time or full time) that brings you a sense of fulfilment, pride and joy? Motherhood does not have to equal the loss of those things.
2. This is not how you saw your life playing out
Remember how you went to school, worked hard enough to get into uni, worked hard enough to pass uni and then start applying for jobs? All the interviews, new roles, occasional promotions and satisfaction to see your career starting to go ‘somewhere’? And then pregnancy and staying at home…
The choice to go back is a choice but how did it become so hard and so fraught with guilt, complexity and compromise?
It doesn’t have be. Going back to work doesn’t happen overnight and doesn’t have to be full time. The choice literally is yours but you just haven’t seen that yet.
3. You’ve still got plenty of energy to give to something
Sure, there are days when you feel exhausted and can’t imagine having the energy to work for someone else (or even your own business) but for the most part, you do have the energy and brain power to do more than what you are doing right now.
Can you really imagine that this is what your life is going to look like forever?? Is this really what you want?
4. Your identity is more than just mother & wife
Every human being is multi faceted. You are also multi faceted but since staying home, there are many facets that have been left unexplored and ignored. One of those is being a working professional. Working hard at a career and developing your professional identity seemed so important (it’s what you were doing every day) and then it just stopped. But the brain cells didn’t die. The knowledge and experience hasn’t just disappeared. All those things are still there, even if you don’t want to do the same thing, your demonstrated capacity to work hard and develop skills is still there.
Just as your partner has continued to develop their professional skills, expertise and identity, you too have the opportunity to do so.
Ready for more?
To work out what the next step is, reach out diana@backtoworkroadmap.com

5. Why shouldn’t you explore what’s out there?

This is your life and being a mother and wife, doesn’t mean you have to confine your life to those identities if you don’t want to. At the end of your life, will you say, “I wish I had had the chance to do more for myself….”well you do have the chance. You just have to put your hand up and say, ‘I’m ready.’ Nothing will change if you don’t do something. Anything is a great start.
To explore what the next chapter of your life might look like, reach out diana@backtoworkroadmap.com

Diana Cregan

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